Matt and I were arguing about who would write this, but I (Mark) won…HA! Its mine… All mine! (I am doing the final edit … it’s mine (Matt))
Sibling rivalry is not simply when your children are competitive, it is when they bug each other senselessly and thus argue and thus annoying you, the parent. We listened to some funny examples of this! Of course they are only funny in retrospect. Rivalry is a real pain, especially for parents of children close together in age. Here are the solutions we came up with:
Let them work it out – If you can stand it, this is a good option (ear plugs are cheap).
Separate them – This is not always possible, but when you can it is nice.
Watch secretly so you can see who the instigator is – The instigator will likely get all lawyer on you and say ‘I was only waving my arms near her’. Stick with the intent and not the law. If one child was essentially starting the whole thing, they should get in trouble.
Let kids keep ownership of their possessions – This is a touchy one. The fighting commonly occurs when one child has something the other wants. Still, if one child ‘owns’ the desired toy, you have to let them judge whether to share. (Here you can listen to John moan about his boss mustang hot wheels car that Mark ruined…)
As always, we did not solve all the problems relating to sibling rivalry, but we worked through it and gave some good advice I think.
Rants, moments, etc. And lots of fun was had by all,
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